I guess I am just not "the one" for him. He has had a quasi-single life for YEARS. He admits that he shouldn't have been that way- BUT, he also adds on "YOU should have MADE it so I didn't WANT to go out." OR, "You shouldn't have let me." Sigh.
Now there's a man who can't accept responsibility for being the lead in the relationship. He's vague and superficial and blaming. I've been reading stuff on men and women and one of the more controversial ideas I think I agree with is that the man leads. If he leads with compassion and strength and in such a way that the woman doesn't have to mother him, then all will be fine. No blaming or looking for someone to comfort him after he weeps that someone else is to blame. But this guy just blames other people for his failings. Wuss. I agree with Dom. Ditch him. You can and will do better.
By all means learn Italian. I know Italian...great language. Very easy to pronounce although verb conjugations is a pain in the *ss.
I'm talking to Jody tonight as well. We'll see how things go.
H42 W36 M9 yrs D8 D5 d-day: 21/11/07 S and moved out: 22/2/08 Still S: 22/11/10
Now there's a man who can't accept responsibility for being the lead in the relationship. He's vague and superficial and blaming. I've been reading stuff on men and women and one of the more controversial ideas I think I agree with is that the man leads. If he leads with compassion and strength and in such a way that the woman doesn't have to mother him, then all will be fine. No blaming or looking for someone to comfort him after he weeps that someone else is to blame. But this guy just blames other people for his failings. Wuss. I agree with Dom. Ditch him. You can and will do better.
