I have to respectfully disagree..she is not 'wondering' why he is not just forgiving her. She has laid her heart, her soul and every error she KNOWS she made...right out here for all to see (and in some cases, judge I guess)..From what I've been reading, clearly Lifeline does not expect to say 'sorry' (that kind of apology stopped being acceptable back in kindergarten) and think everything will be 'hunky dory'..I don't see where she's asking for that, what she's asking for is to be treated like a human being and not degraded like a common hooker. She feels his pain,betrayal and disgust with her..each and every day in that house when he won't look at her. Yes, you are on the other side of this "story", and I'm not going to pretend to know how that feels..it is the ultimate betrayal. While my marriage was littered with abuse, infidelity was the one thing I was spared..so NO, I don't know how the 'other' side feels, and I will be upfront about that..
BUT...emotionally abusing her and using sex as a nasty weapon against her..well, yes..that is going to make her angry because, at the end of the day, she is just asking for it to be recognized that, as a human, she made a grave error. She wants to fix it and is putting her completely raw self out there, willing to allow herself to be degraded in a way only she can truly understand..no he shouldn't 'just forgive' her...but she is not resigned to a life of constant degradation. That is simply my opinion, and we can choose to disagree...
the demise of a marriage is most always a 2 way street...even in my abusive situation, I could identify and recognize the role I played and accept that responsibility. No...a failing marriage is not a license to cheat, but (again, my opinion) nor is it a license to treat someone as sub-human. Good luck
