I know how much you want to put OW straight. Believe me I felt EXACTLY the same.
I did contact OW in my sitch.....and guess what....it made me feel worse. It makes them think they are winning. It doesn't cause insecurity. Think about this - you say OW may have phoned your house a couple of times and does it mean she is feeling insecure. Don't know. But odds on if you do the same back and contact her she will think the same and think she has you on the run.
Don't credit her with a conscience. She KNOWS she is doing something wrong getting involved with a M'd man and she doesn't care; if she did she would not have done it in the first place. You will end up feeling humiliated, and also cross with yourself that you have let her know she has 'gotten' to you.
Believe me.....I still have draft letters on my email that I wrote to OW telling her what a despicable person she is...it really isn't worth going there. If they were decent and the sort of person who would react to such contact they wouldn't be messing with your H in the first place.
(((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) this hurts so bad.
On a lighter note....let me tell you....about my red face moment with OW. When I joined facebook I sent messages to my email contacts, (all my contacts), by mistake. Well, as I mentioned previously, I had these draft emails ready to send to OW....so she was in my contact list. Imagine my embarrassment that I had sent her a message asking her to be my friend!!!! I did send her another message rescinding it - but hey ho!!! As another DB said to me at the time...there is showing forgiveness.....and then there is lunacy!!!!
I will never forgive the OW. She was a hard faced manipulative biotch. It has become apparent as time has gone on that she never really loved my H; he was a means to an end.
Keep on keeping on....you will get where you can find some peace eventually
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
