D13 came home a few minutes ago from spending some time with W. Apparently they played some board games with her friends daughter and her boyfriend and guess what, OM was there.
D13 said she felt uncomfortable because mom likes him and 'technically you are not divorced yet'. I told her that's true and that what mom is doing is wrong. D13 said that I should tell W that and I said I have but she just wants to do whatever she wants to make herself happy.
D13 said "You're just upset because mom likes him and they're closer in age than you are".
I had to think about that, her observation of her mom, me and her mom kind of rejecting me. Kids know stuff I guess.
I've been pretty hopeful till now, a bit slow to 'get it'. I asked God for a sign and here it is. She's not lonely or hurting or anything. She's got the life she's been wanting, except for the financial stability. A 'nice guy' who she has things in common with, and none of Frank's problems. And of course I'll fix the financial ones because I have no choice - my survival depends on it.
This divorce is not going to be busted. She's like her mom and just wants to live the 'simple' life and not have to deal with the kinds of issues that came into our life. They were huge, but I was an over emotional over achiever who crashed and burned and stayed there way too long.
Never again. Never again.
Silly me, we're only 'technically' married. In her mind we're not married at all. Just a technicality.
I think this is the last dagger. At least I hope so. I'm keeping my promises to God.
My birthday is soon. This is the third one she's ruined.
