Hi TxMom {{{{hugs}}} I do react the same as you. Some days I am good but others I get overwhelmed about the OW and I get mad. I am my own worst enemy. Please Please get Divorce Busting book, then make an appt with the online counselor here from this site, read the book first. It is confusing but does make sense. We want the truth but they don't know what the truth is. Only listen to 50% of what they say. Why do we have to make them prove what they already know. If you confront the OW then they will laugh at you. I am the type that wants to go and just hit the OW but it will serve no purpose but make my H want to protect her more. By showing pictures, albums any history will not have any effect because in their own minds they have rewritten the history of the marriage. OUR actions are the only thing that will convince them we have changed. It is one sided, it does stink but right now that is all we have till they come out of the fog. You can get great info from the message boards but the books are the base. It is a lonely road and I pray daily.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
