It's odd. I don't know if it will take 2 years or 6 months or 6 years to get over the D. I'm betting more on the 6 month time frame frankly.
I say that for a reason. The personal growth has been so extreme that I feel in some ways like I wasn't married, some other person was married. In fact, in some ways I feel like our marriage was between two other people. On top of that, I'm convinced that a lot of the time needed for healing has to do with the lack of personal growth. If I hadn't undergone this time of growth, I'd be an emotional wreck right now and it would probably take me 6 years to get over a D.
SO, in some ways I feel that if she and I can amiably come to agreements on the three issues then, I can make plans and move onto a new life. YES, there will still be some healing and grieving that needs to happen, but, that still feels like remnants of the old me. The new me is single, but, has to carry the divorced tag.
