....I've told you a hundred times that your W really hasn't faced the true test of being on her own. Sounds like her family is telling you the same thing. She has so much to learn and figure out for herself. Time will teach her about life's realities because no one else can. Keep plugging away and your situation will get better. A word of caution...the more desperate she becomes, financially and otherwise, the bumpier this ride will get. When she feels trapped, she will lash out. Try and get yourself as financially stable as possible so that you can fend off her attacks. And you will be attacked. Sorry.
Hugs, Spitfire
I can not emphasize enough how much I agree with Spitfire here.
Stay alert..
I was very impressed that you called your Dad's wife after the slight in the obituary.