I hope he is enjoying his new life..while I take care of our kids.
Sandy
Funny how that happens. I used to feel like you also. I've realized lately though that my kids and I have a really tight bond which I don't think they will ever have with their dad. I'm the stable parent they count on, and my H is there sometimes when he feels like it when OW is busy. Kids are very smart and figure out this kind of thing. I think your H will realize this at some point, but if he doesn't and continues to be selfish and self-absorbed, why would you want him anyway?
If you think Fireproof might motivate you then see it, but I have to admit most movies I've seen lately are a bummer. So a comedy is good too! You need to do what will make you happy. That'll help you get stronger and more in control of your emotions and everything else.
I think that's a good idea to set simple goals to work on everyday. I've been doing that too. No contact except about kids and make it polite and businesslike (ok I know I really need to work on this one too) it's hard but a good one. Try to do something fun every day, something you enjoy each day, read a book, a hobby, watch a movie, or whatever makes you happy and that'll help with the crying. I used to cry so much, and now it's every 2 months or so so & it gets better. Karen
Karen
