Trying2live- the new post 1

[hope3343]

Hello all, still have the flu {{{{JGRIND}}} glad to see you are back.

JGrind, I know it is tough with OW interacting with kids but you are handling it with dignity. You said what you had to say and stepped back. I give you credit because I told my H do not EVER bring OW around our kids. Of course my girls would probably beat her up (joke)..so I do not have to deal with that. As a part of DB make sure you bring up how excited your S was and about the church activity and how happy he was to spend time with his Dad. Always bring up the positive things H does alone with the kids to reinforce time without OW. You might be right that OW is struggling in the relationship. Good you have a friend that is observing for you. As I know realize -- God needs to be in the center of this. I tried to fix everything myself and failed. If anything this has turned me to God and his care during this time.

twinhope, Your H is in the fog about houses. When my H was first talking about moving out he talked about buying a condo?? with what. They are in lalala land. Follow T2L advice about credit cards. I know my H right now is spending money like water, his credit card bill is HUGE and I think he is trying to impress -- all smoke and mirrors. I think your H is taking on that role also to impress OW he could buy another house. You absolutely do not refi house. More crazy MLC fog

Marisol -- remember YOU decide what you want to do. Just because H wants D does not mean you have to agree. Let's face it they don't know what they want. We have to be the voice of reason. You want the reconcillation papers -- you go for it. You do not have to ask permission. The longer you can delay D the longer time H has to come out of fog.

T2L {{{{where are you feeding cake to H}}}}} You are on a roll. Need updates! How has H been? And what do you think OW is doing while H is spending all this time at home? I know I speak for everyone here you have been a great motivator no matter what happens. How are the kids taking all of this. Maybe when you go black you might need to explain in a lesser detail to your S so he will not get upset.

As for me, have the flu -- still. Went to work -- left 1/2 day. Saw H once -- when I looked like cr@p. I get home sitting with D at dinner - H calls D tells him she needs some line paper and then she has headache goes and lies down. H comes over, sees D is sleeping goes out back to see dog, we hang out in the backyard for 1/2 hour, then H comes in and says "what's on tv" and sits down?? I think I looked a little surprised and then he says I should go, hugs me once, twice, and then a third time after saying goodbye to D, After the third time I said I think you must miss me - and he says I feel sorry because you are sick and I said dont feel sorry for me. As H is leaving he says I will come over after work tomorrow to work on lawn???? weird?
I did find out that he went to Mexico with OW (saw he took money out at ATM there), maybe OW went there for more Botox since it is her daughter's wedding on Saturday (meow - catty me). She was also not at work today so I don't know if she is getting ready for the wedding, but H was sorta lost again today. I think depression is setting in. Then the best part is H says guess who called me today??? H says "friend from China", I almost choked. I asked what he said and he said we talked football and he wants me to go check his house and call him in the next day or so. I did not ask if H told him anything but I do not think he mentioned anything. So I think friend was testing and checking to see what he says. This should be an interesting exposure when it hits the fan! Well time to take more drugs to get this flu out of my system. Stay strong we can do this. I appreciate all of the support we give to each other.