For the Guy with Kids and a WW XV

[hopeful4her]

karen, how could Puppy get mad at you. The only one that could get mad at you is your H, and thats because he is a jackass.

Everyone knows how much you and I love to joke with everyone.

No one is perfect. We know it. I know it. The conversation I had last night with the wife, the text. Funny thing is, even though I missed a lot of opportunities, we talked. We got comfortable with each other for a few moments. Her "you need to move on" comment threw me off, but the conversation was good to have. I think that sometimes its ok to talk to the wife about stuff. Like I was giving her grace. I was not mushy or weak in the conversation. At least I didn't think so. I was maybe a little too reflective to her. Not sure.

The text, I think that there are certain things that she needs to know. I DON'T want things to be unsaid. I'm not giving her "ILY's". I don't want to be getting papers and then thinking that there were things that I should have told her.

Not sure if that makes sense?

I didn't get a response, but I figured that. It was ok by me. I didn't think it was going to flip a switch or anything, so I was cool. On the way to pick up the girls, the wife calls me. I was jamming out, so I was in a good mood. I answered very upbeat. She was calling from her work phone.

"Hello!" I answered.
"Hey, you."

Now the "Hey you" had been our little term of endearment that I started years ago. Then she started saying to others. Her best friend, I'm pretty sure OM. When she says it to me, I always take that as a good sign.

She starts to tell me about S14 needing to go to his grandparents house to use their computer for something. She found out from D11 that D6 wanted to stay at the apartment again. The wife tells me that she has a meeting at another branch at 6:30. S14's dad might pick him up, and if I get their too early, D6 won't be able to stay, so it looks like she is going to have to go home with me. I tell her that I'll just take S14 myself. She'll call him when she gets out and see if he is ready. We start to talk about D6 a little. She's been pretty grouchy lately. She is gaining weight and snoring more. Might be sleep deprived a little. D11 had the same problem until we had her tonsils and adenoids removed. Sleeps like a baby now. I ask her how her day was. She starts to tell me. Then she asks,
"Hey, what does BTW mean?"
"You don't know what it means? Your not the queen texter now?"
"No, I don't get into that stuff."
"BTW means 'by the way'."
"Oh, I thought it meant 'but then wait'.....or something."
"But then wait?"
"I don't know that stuff. I only know 'lol'...and 'romf' or 'rolmao' or whatever."
"rolf lmao. Rolling on floor, laughing my ass off. Yeah, I know THAT one. How about OMG?"
"ONG?"
"OMG."
"What's that?"
"OMG! Oh my God!" I tell her in my best valley voice. I start to tell her how my 58 year old widowed boss knows WAY more abbreviations than I do. I learn some from her. She found out that she LOVES texting. She is funny.

I hear her other work line ringing. She contemplates answering it.

"Nah. We're closed anyway."
Then I can hear someone talking to her in her office. Muffled talk. Now she gives ME the high pitched sweet voice.

"Okay. Uh, do you mind if I call you back?"

Hey, I've heard THAT voice before.

I say okay and we hang up. Pick up the kids, take S14 to his grandparents and head home. Make some dinner and they are watching something on Disney channel. The wife calls from the apartment at about 10 till eight. Again, I answer pretty upbeat. She asks how the girls are. I tell her their fine. Watching a movie. She says that D6 forgot the video they rented. She can watch it tomorrow.

Again, we start to chit chat. She says that S14 wasn't ready, so his dad is going to have to take him back. I tell her that D6 and I had a talk about her wanting to come home with me and wanting to stay at the apartment just to play with friends. The wife talks about how hard it is to wake her in the morning. I agree. She's terrible. We talk about her only wanting sweets and junk food. I tell her that we are eating a light dinner. She mentions that they got into the Oreos today.
"I can't believe the whole bag is almost gone. I just bought them this morning."

I'm thinking, "This MORNING?"

"You went and bought Oreos this morning?"
"I didn't end up going to the store last night. I kept debating and then I said, 'NAHH'. I got up at 5:30 and went to the store."
"Up at 5:30 on purpose or by accident?"
"I couldn't sleep. I figured I'll beat traffic. We at least needed milk."
"Funny. I woke up at 2 and didn't fall asleep until about 4. I am tired."

At this point I tell her to hold on. I stopped the conversation and took the phone to D6. I let them talk. They end up hanging up and I ask D11 if she got to talk to her.

"No! Juli just hung up!"

Seems odd. I'm just going to go with it. Who knows. I may not talk to her for the rest of the week. I'll just take it for what it was. Conversation. I just knew for SURE that she was going to try to avoid talking to me for a while after my text to her.

I am surprised.