Have been having a ton of fun & good times everywhere I go lately.
I pulled up recent filings about 9 days ago & saw that H had gone thru with the actual filing. Called him to ask when he was planning on having me served.
H-"How did you find out? You call and blindside me like this when I was just inching along, great. I told you, I'm not going to have you served, I'll give you them myself."
A week goes by with no mention of the papers. Then on Wednesday night I'm out when he drops off S5 & he leaves them on the counter with a note that he'd like the acknowledgement page back to show I was served.
I'd had about enough of papers being left, not filed, filed, etc., so got in my car & went to his place for the first time in 17 months.
I calmly told him I thought it was ChixSh to drop off D papers & go, & I wanted to personally tell him that.
He seemed surprised that I was there & said he had a lot of thought's, but 10:30pm was not a great time to start telling me them. Can I call you tomorrow & set up an appointment when we won't have the kids.
I said fine, do that, I didn't come over to talk to you tonight anyway.
Left me an e-mail the next morning wanting to meet me for lunch on Friday.
First hour of lunch there was no discussion of anything R related. Then he asks what are we going to do about us. He's much less stressed now, but depressed every day. Doesn't know what to do.
Wants to know if I'm happier w/out him. No, I'm not. "I do get the idea from listening to you though, that you seem to think it's your decision to R. It's not. At this point there's a lot that would have to happen before we ever think about starting a new R, but starting D procedings is painfully premature. If you're intent on doing that, it's out of my control. It does seem a little like you're throwing your family under the bus though."
The last sentence sent him over the top with him telling me he's there for S5 as much as he can be.
Over all, it was a positive meeting & maybe overdue, but I wasn't going to be the one to suggest getting together. Since then, thing's have been a lot more relaxed. He was due to go out of the country this weekend but split his head open surfing & has stiches, so cancelled the trip.
Either way this R goes, I'm much stronger, more detached, happier, & certainly more aware than I've ever been, thanks in a large part to what I've gained from this board.
