No I don't think we would live like roomates at all because it just doesn't make sense to buy a new bedroom set ad all that just so he could have "space" however even if we did get to that and live in separate rooms I still do not think it would last very long, maybe a few weeks.
I will go for it if he wants to, as it would solve two problems by helping me move out and potentially fixing our relationship. It is just a matter of timing and finances now. As long as he still wants to. I get nervous since I don't know if he changed his mind. I might try and hint around tomorrow when I see him to get a feel for where he stands on the issue after a few more days of thought.
I was super bored at work today so I had a chance to make my list of things he needs to work on/change in order for me to want to live with him again.
1. Show respect (especially during conflicts, I want and need eye contact when we are having a conversation)
2. Goes to individual counseling
3. Makes a commitment to go back to church with me
4. Comes up with more suggestions of things to do/try so we can establish more common interests
5. Shows concern for me by asking me about my day, greeting me when I come home, asking if I am okay if I seem sad and learns to hold me when I cry instead of getting frustrated and walking away
6. Says I love you everyday, at least once
7. Shows appreciation for me by thanking me for the things I do, big and small
I want to email him the list soon so he can be thinking about it but don't want to overwhelm him. Should I just include it in my goodbye letter?
Let me know your thoughts!
He is coming to my work tomorrow and hanging out until I get off and then we are going to do dinner and a movie and then just hang out for awhile. So that should be good. I am excited to see him but also nervous because I do not want to mess anything up. I guess I am feeling a little pressured by this situation but I am going to try my hardest not to let it get to me.
