First Thread in a long time......

[ACJ]

No advice Holly I'm afraid. I'm virtually right where you are only in what seems to be a whole more messy sitch. I do have ((((((((hugs)))))))) though.

Take care

[forward]

Holly, Do the opposite of what he would expect. If he would expect you to call, don't. If he doesn't expect you to call, do.

[Holly06]

That is very good advice. I am sending a card. Something humorous, with a knowing about him kinda thing... signed it, you could have written this card,,,,, Happiness always! Holly
That will show him what I am made of. Give me financial pressure and I am still gracious. I like that.
Today I am better. I really suffer on the weekends. I struggle with getting a life and standing.
I think that once TJ gets his divorce, he will he happy and then crash. He has not been sucessful contacting me in any way, and I know that he doesn't like that. I was taking care of me, by not responding.
I just wonder if I have taken care of me too long, and let the tethers of our relationship fray till they are unmendable. Very worried about that.

[forward]

Holly, I would consider not breaking the silence as well.

[forward]

Holly, I would consider not breaking the silence as well.

[Holly06]

But,,,,, I live 4 hours away, and the no contact means that I am punishing him for bad behavior,,,,, he is being a real stinker about spousal support. All arranged, no court endorsement yet, but he is with holding...... I should be no contact,because I am suppose to be mad.
But the card, would be tough to handle, that would be nice when he is being ugly,,,,
see what I mean?
contact would be a 180 for me.

[forward]

Holly, That sounds good. I am starting to realize that we all know intuitively what is best for our situations.

[spitfire23]

Holly,

No advice. Just thinking of you. (((((Holly))))

Spitty