Oh yes illness or the type certainly make a difference. My niece has a small child with CP and oh my the stress on her marriage is incrediable! I don't know how they are going to make it.
I remember the old saying that went something like this "It will either bring you closer together or blow you apart".
I wonder if the "blow you apart" is because there were other problems already present or if the spouse was just too weak of a person to stand up and pitch in?
Gigi
"It's not what happens to you, it's what you make of it." Zig Ziglar
