tgone, thanks again bud....Everyone is telling me I am crazy for doing her brakes. There had to be a reason she asked me, not her brother the mechanic or her OM the mechanic, she asked me. I used to be a mechanic years ago. the price would be the same, yet we don't know why I was asked. I have made a resolve to go dark completely once the brakes are done. she needs to give me money for her car ins our I am seperating the ploicies. I see your point and trust me, friends and family atre saying the same thing you are. Yet, something is holding her to me, not me to her, her to me. My pain today is bad, feel like crying but I'm not. Heard she did several times today. See has also commented to a friend that she needs to focus on herself and not have these distractions. one is the OM. apparently she left after the wedding because they were all going out partying at some bar and she didn't want to go. she had a couple and felt safer coming to the camp rather than driving home, stupid in any direction. So that mystery is solved. but the good thing is she didn't WANT to go out partying with OM and his friends. So maybe she is finally in a place where she can think and resolve and whatever. When her brakes are done and the insurance for her car talk is over, that will be it for me for a while, a long while. holidays are coming, she is more than aware that being in the same place as me ain't happening, made that quite clear with my actions Saturday night. My kids have indicated that thery will see her at her father's house on Christmas Day, but not christmas Eve at my house or my D's house if she has it. Thanksgiving, i was invited to her dad's, but it is her Father's. I have been invited to a few places, so who knows where I'll end up. wherever it is, my kids want to be with me at some time.
None of this seems right. I just finished reading the marriage map in the DR book and boy are we at Stage 3. I understand what she is saying as I preach it when I do training. How you interact with a customer is how they will respond, how you don't interact with a customer is how they will respond. funny, nerver thought my theories on motivating peolpe technically or customer relationship wise would be the same thought process I have tyo use if i want to save my marriage,. You said your doors are closed and locked, can they ever be opened, you think? I don't want to imagine the d-word, but I need to be realistic if thats what she wants then I need to let it go. I hate being alone, I hate not having her here to talk to and to help me throguh this, this is the pain i went thropguh as my Dad was dying of cancer. everyday hurt knowing that this could be the day it ends. I'm living that hurt times 100 today. Did you ever read the DR book? You said you had wished you started DBing earlier, when did you start. i started at about 6-7 weeks in, is that too late? I hope not...Well thanks agin for your great responses, do me a favor and check in on me, I really need your support and advice. I don't want to be a door mat, I'd rather be a welcome mat, but I guess I need to be patient.
