how do I keep DBing when he feels this way?

[sgctxok]

Let's all step back a minute here.

Lifeline,

I am very humbled by your ability to share your 'faults' here. Our job is to be compassionate and help you brainstorm to save your marriage.

You and your husband both are in a lot of pain. And when you're in a lot of pain it's hard to deal with your partner's pain and also their jabs at you. It certainly isn't for cowards.

Your H is going to need a lot of room for making these errors, and you are going to need a place to vent, and yet stay focused on the important things in your marriage and healing here.


That's what we're here for.

Now you understand, Lifeline, that a lot of these folks have been in your H's position, so your words may trigger the memories or current realities of their pain.


So...we all need some room here.


Let's let compassion and healing be our focus.