Hey just checking in on you! hoping you are ok, and hope you update us soon!!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Well yesterday she called me on the way back from drill. She was all excited about reading the 5 languages of love. Talked for awhile until I was getting into a bad cell area. Called later and talked for over an hour. Just some normal stuff and then some stuff about the getting through the future. She then had to fix dinner for the kids and asked if I would call her before I went to bed, but she did not want to be pushy. I said I would. I fell asleep on the couch and she ended calling because she was worried. Talked for a little while.
Then things turned bad.
I went out to see her and OM's truck was at the house. So I sent her a text.
M: who is there W: OM. He stopped by to talk. Sorry I have to be honest with you everyone about everything right now. M: guess your now contact promise went out the window W: He showed up and wanted to talk. Sorry I keep letting everyone down! I know I am a horrible person.
She called a little bit after that. Said that she said everything she was supposed to OM. That she was confused and did not want to talk to anyone right now, she needed her space. She was trying to call IC.
Later in the day she called and asked about some city business. I asked what was on her mind. She said she was confused and needed space. I told her we talked sat about that and doing the right thing may not always be what you felt. She agreed and said she needed space and hoped I understood. I told her the no contact was as much for her benefit as mine and that it would screw up her head. She said she understood that. She said she had an appointment with IC on wed and did not want to do anything until then. That she was sorry. I told her I hope is not to late by then. She said it was a risk she would have to take.
Hurt, yeah some. PO'd for awhile. Now, who cares. I was done sat when I went and saw her. Since then I have felt enormous stress trying to turn back to a life with her. Now it is gone.
Setback, maybe. Death nail, more probable. Good thing I was so skeptical about the whole thing. See what the future holds, it is bright either way.
I guess the question that you have to answer for yourself is what you will accept from her as far as setbacks. I have heard Puppy talk about so many strikes and you need to set that for yourself. Which ever way it goes, I know you will be fine because you have been doing the work and you are ready either way. Good luck.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
hey friend thanks for checking in, I was getting worried! YES that is the ZILLION GABILLION dollar question! sooooooo why dont we for us both with our sitchs figure it out??
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
I told her exactly what the conditions were. I think the only thing I can do now is wait until Weds after she sees the IC. If her chit is not together that's it. Time to move on, should not be to hard since I am 98% there anyway. After this much time, I will go two days more. Mostly for my own personal satisfaction that I did everything and more then I could have done. I have shifted back to a D. I know what I want in a R and M, part of me wants her and most of me does not. So either way down the road it is all good. Just have to exhaust all ends to this. Wed, that will probably be the end.
Last edited by yenko69; 10/07/0801:11 AM.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
Don't forget that she is going to have to end things with OM, I think. He is going to try to pursue. Try to give grace. I believe this addiction is too hard to do cold turkey. He probably F'ed with her head. I think she is trying. She knew she had to end it.
Good luck to you. Either way it goes.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
morning! so did ya get alot of rain? the north wind is blowing me away and making me freeze! sigh i really dont love our weather lol! how are you doing today?
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
I know what I want in a R and M, part of me wants her and most of me does not. So either way down the road it is all good. Just have to exhaust all ends to this. Wed, that will probably be the end.
Yenko, You have absolutely captured where I'm at and probably a bunch of us. I'm not sure that the small part of me that wants her isn't still in love with a fable or a ghost that never really existed.
We will see, going to confront her on Thursday with the papers to file.
