I think it's great that you reached out and especially loved the way you did it by adding the mail comment on there, makes it seem less pressure and more just "fyi"
It is funny when they text back right away. Cracks me up.
Well the more realistic the dream the better, right? In terms of the Secret it's the real feeling and believing that make the difference. I've been struggling here as I always feel like I might be being manipulative if I ask for my H, but in my case I believe he still loves me so am appealing to something triggering this in him. I'm sure it's the same in your case.
Glad he texted back right away. Now at least the seal is broken so to speak so hopefully it will be less awkward for him to reach out if he wants to. I also like that he said he'd been meaning to text.
Hang in there; you're doing great and have a PMA to die for!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
I am home sick today!! Yucky...I think I have been pushing myself too much and it caught up with me. So I hame here lurking.
I am still keeping the PMA. H and I have gone through worse things in our past and always made it back to each other. I know he still loves me and thinks about me so I just need to stay positive and remain the independent cool chick he feel in love with.
Alright so I sent him another text last night before going to sleep...it was a "pic" and I heard no response from him until this afternoon.."Thanks for the picture, unfortunatly I didn't see it until late today otherwise I would've probably slept a little better." Ahhhhh (My heart melting here) I love him so much!!!
Ok sorry got a little mushy. I'm glad I reached out, I'm on his mind and that is what I want!!
That sounds so divine right now!! He will be soon enough.
We have been chit chatting via text the last few days. Nothing serious all playful stuff. Which I think is great!
I am finally feeling better and back at work today. I have a job interview after work also, so I'm a little nervous but I am dressed for success so I do feel confident.
I realized that he was always the pursuer and when I was angry I ALWAYS went dark and he would have to drag me out, so this time I decided to switch it up and so far so good..lol.
Ok so I am soo glad that I broke the ice now. H came by tonight, we chatted a bit as usual...how is the pt job...what time do you work there...yada yada....proceed to ML.....then after he remains in bed awhile and I make sure to maintain contact, hand on him and he does not move away. He stays in the bed relaxing for about 15-20 min before getting up. Yeah!! Then when he is getting ready I get up and go get something to drink, he comes in to go through his mail which I always leave in a pile on the kitchen table for him, he says good bye and this time HE initiated the hug and kiss goodnight!!! Woo Hooo babysteps oh babysteps.
This is also the first time that after he left I do not feel sad!! Usually I feel all sad like I am about to cry that he left this time I actually feel good and happy and so very hopeful. I know it does not seem like much but I have noticed him softening more and more. He lingers longer after our encounters and now initiating the goodbye hug/kiss.
Ok that's enough for tonight...I must go to bed and try to get some sleep now.
P.S. He even sent a text when he got home saying he was there!!
I hope my next date night with my H goes as well as yours. I went out today and bought a cute top, new matching bra and panties, shoes, and even a dress for some future unknown occasion.
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You are doing great. I will have to get this 'secret' book that you refer to. It seems to be working.
Me-36 H-30 T-7yr, M-3yr DivorceBusting Saved my marriage! sep 6-08 to 12-08. Together again, things are good!
