Yep, I am stuck. But not for long. I think my dad will have the worst week so far and things look pretty bad. Somehow, this makes me mad at xH. Maybe because I havent been able to get any support during our life together from him while I was drained giving support to him about his mom, relatives, jobs...
My main focus now is my dad. My xH will be taken care of, soon after I know how things will turn out. I am worried this time will be it. I hope it's my negativity and not my instict. The news from the hospital are not very encouraging. I feel I am running out of time. Thanks K
Kalni, sorry your news is not good or positive. I am thinking of you and praying you will find the extra strength, courage and energy for the tasks that lay ahead. Don't forget to find a quiet moment or two just for you. ((((hugs)))
K - Forget STBX for now. Concentrate solely on your dad. He deserves every bit of time you can give him right now. Sit with him, talk with him, do anything you can for him. This isn't necessarily for him as much as it's for you. You need to connect fully with him now while he is in the worst of times.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
The stupid thing is that I cant be with him because I have my kids to take care of and xH has "a game on Saturday he needs to work for..." I cant be with him. It's either me or my mom, someone has to stay with the kids. My mom of course must be there... Great, huh? Thanks. I am bit lost right now. This is happening too fast and too soon. And I hope it wil change. I hope something will change.
I have some holiday at work and not a lot on. Let me talk to CEO and see if I can find flights- I could look after your little ones to free you up for a while....
I totally understand. And life is just not fair sometimes. I was with my H and totally supportive when he lost his parents. My Mom was so good to him for over 30 years - he never even came to her funeral and our D was final the day after. UGH!
Do you have any friend or hospital support who can help you look after your children for a bit each day so you can spend that time with your dad and supporting your Mom. When my Mom was ill - it meant as much to my dad for me to be there. But I had a handicapped child and another still at home. We just all do the best we can. And try not to feel guilty as we all do.
KUDOS to you for being the best daughter and Mom! Now you know what Kudos are!
Barb
A Kudu is a gazelle type animal. I am NOT sending those to you! LOL!
