Expose the affair or not!?!?

[hoosiermama]

Before I knew about DB'ing, I exposed to H, to a very few and select friends/family, and to H's pastor; OW is not married. I don't know if I would have done things differently had I read DB/R. It was all so fresh that I thought these folks might confront H and bring him back to reality. What actually happened is that they eventually may have talked to H and been told a bunch of negative things about me and our marriage (and the A has been denied), because they all--ALL--have cut me off but continue relationships with H. I know those relationships are different, but they were all quite unsupportive of me, ultimately. I still don't understand that, and it still hurts.