When W said that she didn't want to disrupt the kids routine of showering at night, I just had to point out that she had already been the cause of a much bigger disruption in their lives by having them now live in 2 different homes.
I like my more relaxing time with the kids now on the weekend. When W lived with us, it was always a hurry up and lets get out of the house to go shopping or get an early seat to eat lunch somewhere. She is the type where when I drove into a parking lot, she had to get out and rush to a door of a restaurant to get ahead of anyone else that might be currently in the process of parking. I never understood the hurry or the rigid routines, but I tolerated it.
"I just had to point out that she had already been the cause of a much bigger disruption in their lives by having them now live in 2 different homes." Imagine how not too long ago some of us would be listening, validating and then listening some more ;-) The school C told me that in my house the kids follow my rules (or lack thereof). Why do you even let W into your house now? It's inviting Trouble in my opinion. G39.9999 turned G40 ... I guess that stops the clock? She's now G40.001 on the number line?
I am kind of walking on eggshells while we are still in negotiations for the final D. Once that is signed, I plan to tell her that she is to get the rest of her things from the house and I will not take the excuse that she has no place to keep them. She will have plenty of money to buy a storage unit. I also will tell her that she is not invited in my home ever again.
The cool thing about time is that Kerry's to G40.001's age ratio is getting smaller and smaller. I suppose the same could be said of OM's 68 to W's 37 but that is still a pretty big ratio. And the funnier thing is that when W is my age, her OM will be 79!
I sit here reading your post and nodding my head. I did not "rock the boat" when we were in D negotiations. But when I bought my new house I made it clear he was NEVER to set foot in it. I want my home to be peaceful and ALL MINE!
About the age differences. WOW - that is funny! I did not want to date Josh when I first learned of his birthday - same as Chuck's but then it hit me - he is 10 years younger - OH BONUS!!! 79??? Oh what a hoot that is.
EXCELLENT work on the boundaries. That is what I'm learning for myself and you, as always, have set a great example to follow. I hope you don't mind if I cut and paste that speech of yours into my memory.
As for the long phone calls, it is really cool. You two are acting like teenagers - at least the type of teenagers who used to actually talk on the phone for hours instead of IM, text, e-mail, etc.
Very cool. Nice work.
The end of your D will allow your gloves to come off and that too will be good for you.
Nov. 20 is really just right around the corner, my man.
Most divorced women I meet will tell me to take time to enjoy living my life without a man, at least for a bit.
Most married women friends (of all ages) say that if their husband were to die, they would date but never remarry because it's such a hassle. This is something they'd said even before my divorce proceeding.
Women seem to want space after a divorce while men seem to jump into lots of dating and not wanting to alone? Is it a guy thing?
