tgone, i just read your posts, we have a lot in common, wife is with 31 year old, everything else sems the same. My wife has lost a lot of weight, looks awful, stil partying and out for the good time. She is constantly lying about everything, tells her mother she is at my house cleaning, lie, she is looking for another job, lie, looking for more hours at her part time job, lie. She tells her mother my kids are fine, told tthem about OM and they were ok with it. I told them about OM, my D16 went to her knees when she heard this. She is acting out now as a response to this. my D21 wants nothing to do with her, my married D28 says she has little to do with her and isn't really pushing to get any closer. My S24 is devastated, he was mommy's boy, he really doesn't want anything to do with her. does this sound like kids who are fine!!!? My realtionship with my kids has gotten so strong over the past 2 months it is unreal. they have ben there, picking my crying ass up off the floor, preaching for me to go forward, consoling me when my voice cracks and i start to cry....they see my pain and don't like her for doing this to me, they say she is absent, not really their mother anymore because of her changes, they cpomplained tha tover the past couple of years she has been dressing and acting like she's 21, its true. these are the things that indicate MLC. I am mad, angry, hurt, crushed and every other emotion every day. Talked to a couple f therpists, doesn't really help. All I can do is be me, be close to my friends and family and watch. they tell me she is watching me, taking in my changes, looking to see if I have really changed ad can she come back. Question is, will i be here when she decides too?
