Arthur, you might want to check out "Mars and Venus on a Date". It has some pretty good things in it that might be quite helpful for you know to keep in mind as you get back into dating.
As much as I would enjoy rounding the bases right now, I know that it is going to be so much better for both myself and a nice lady to work our way slowly through relationship stages over weeks or months to the point of having a deep and lasting intimacy. For me, I am still legally married and the current gal I am dating is prim and proper and is willing to wait.
I think that I parked my yacht in hair harbor with the STBXW way too early and I want to try something totally different this next time so as to not let passion control my decisions.