Would it be at all beneficial to take that hard line stance and just tell him (show him w/actions more likely) that I am no longer interested in kissing butt and trying to kill him with love, support, and kindness when he is offering none of those things to me?
To be fair, he has been helping more with the dishes and with helping me get the kids into bed at night. Those are both nice,but my Love Language is not acts of service (his obv. is). I want to be touched, held, and told I am special, loved, valued. He knows this, I have told him on several different occasions. he just doesn't do it......which I believe is another choice he is making.
