amd, nice job getting those goals out there. As to how to proceed and accomplish them, well that's a whole different deal. How involved do you want your H to be with it? If you plan a budget is he the type that will adhere to it? If not, don't set yourself up for failure and expect him to be involved in fixing anything. Set it up for yourself and let him be included in your thoughts and goals but don't expect him to participate.
I hope he will see the doctor about the prescription med abuse.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.