Does he listen to what they say at Retro or the C? Retro clearly teaches that love, commitment, forgiveness, and trust are all decisions. Decisions that need to be made at the outset to support the marriage. He is wearing rose-colored glasses if he thinks that things will work out without the four supports. From what you tell us about your H, I see a very demanding person who does not live up to his own expectations, but thinks everyone else should. I don't see why you should be trying so hard to please him, take care of the kids and the house, and earn a salary, if he is so uncommitted. Does he have any awareness of what his life would be like if you took the same stance he does?
