That's a tough spot to be in. I know for a while in my marriage, I had a low drive due mostly to babies, breastfeeding, birth control, etc... I didn't know until my drive returned how damaging sexual rejection was to my husband. He would say things like, "If I can't have sex with you tell me who I can have sex with!" I HATED when he'd say that, but realized later that he was feeling hurt and the rejection was hard on him. So, I feel for you. I know it hurts. Now, what your wife is thinking? That I don't know. I DO think you've done a good job by going dark. She's curious and her attitide seems to be softening. Now the bad news, it's going to flip-flop. She'll get scared, and distance herself again and again. This is truly a LONG road. If you're in it for the long haul, prepare your heart and mind. We're here with you and for you.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
