As I sit here now, I am starting to feel the results of the fitness test. A good soreness!
I will continue to do extra Army weekends if I need to to get my kids what they need AND want, as much as I can. I spent $100 on a new hockey helmet last weekend, got him a haircut to match mine (!) and bought him new socks, because he goes through them like any athletic, constantly moving 10 year old. He had on one black sock and one ratty white sock. WTF?
Although child support IS for just the basics, I'm sure W. has a coniving plan to get FAR more than that.
My son played hockey for a while and seemed to enjoy. My X wasn't behind it because it was not a sport that he knew or could help him with. He is no longer playing due to lack of support from the X and the financial hardship it would have been, that really is an expensive sport!!! But I really enjoyed watching him play, and going ice skating with him occasionally.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
I'm not quite sure why I come here every morning. It's now 445AM! Maybe because mornings are the worst. Financial mediation begins on Monday. I'm just honestly filling out my financial affidavit. Period. I'm sure with smarmylawyerbossaffairman, she's managed to hide a lot. Yes, it can be done. I really don't even care. I'm numb to all of this. (Not apathetic, just numb)
Part of the single life is not bad. I never have to worry about walking on eggshells, hoping I've broken the code for that particular moment, so as not to be critiqued or worse. It is a small tradeoff for the loss of a whole family, and the loss of an intact family for my kids. Blah, blah...you've heard it all before..........
Life is actually calmer...(?) I'm not doing any yard work. No leaf raking. I don't lift a finger to fix the basement door to the kitchen, where she punched the panel out LAST MARCH to get in the house after she locked herslef out. 5 years agao it would have been fixed the next day. Oh well. Clean my apartment once a week. I just hold my breath any time her number comes up on the cell phone.
Not a big deal, but it felt like a semi-punch in the stomach. S10 as you know loves hoceky and is good at it. He's on the top level team, but is starting to hate it because his coach is a "screamer". He broke down and cried last night with W.
She is going to call one of the other coaches and see if he can help out here.
During our phone call, she proceeded to tell me how hard it's been on S10 "with Iraq and the DIVORCE".
It's amazing how clinical those who have totally rejected us can be. If your're so concerned about S10, why go through a DIVORCE.
Well, at least she finally realized that her choices have had consequences. Has S10 gone to see someone (I know that you are not in love with ICs). You might suggest that she and S also line up a family C at this point, seeing that so much is happening in your family. Maybe she will have a little light shined on herself...
But it could help with your S. I hate to read the thing about the screaming - I don't believe that is necessary with any student athlete, let alone those so young. It sounds like there is a league - can you get in touch with someone at that level, so it doesn't get back to the specific coach? It might be a good idea to have someone at the league level go and observe how the coach acts....
