andrea, You sound great! So you had a great visit to the US ! You created new memories to replace the ones that you have discarded !!! My H is in the Middle East and contact is almost non-existent. I am praying that God is with him constantly and that the Holy Spirit will continue to convict him, soften his heart and bring to life the man that he was meant to be. God is working. God is in control. Balancing the tough love and unconditional love is tough but you do it well! Faith. Hope. Love. LSL