Hi Lisa, Thanks for your thoughts about my dad. I am ok. I think.
Solution based way? I asked for a schedule of his trips. He said he cant give it to me. I asked to arrange Christmas/New Years Eve's vacation with the kids. He said he cant tell me until the first ten days of Dec. I said that is no good, I need to arrange my vacation. He then, upset, told me to go ahead and "book my vacation" and he will make sure he has the kids the time I will be away. I then pushed even more (on purpose for fun) and mentioned Easter. He almost had a heart attack, LOL!!!
I make sure I talk about my house, my plans,my family, my friends. I dont allow any room for common activities and never initiate light discussions not related to our kids.
I am making sure he knows that the CS money must be in my account on the 1st-2nd of the month and not like this month that "he forgot to give me the money". I make sure I am not "asking for favors" anymore and demanding calmly his involvement/participation to the kids' life.
I am talking to him this week. I have decided I will talk to him. Just need to see how my dad goes and find a quiet time to write down what I need to tell him and listen to what he wants to tell me.
