Hi everyone. Long week. Twins birthday sleepover was last weekend, then dad came to pick them up on Wed for presents and dinner. I didnt want to be there when he arrived but I stayed long enough for them to open their gifts from him. They were so excited. H seemed unenthused, almost angry. I felt so heartbroken - their birthday. I had plans to go out with friends that night and was dressed nice, hair and makeup. I kissed the kids goodbye and told them to have a fun birthday with daddy ,then left (an hour earlier than I needed to). It was nice to be out with friends rather than sit home alone , knowing that I should be with my family celebrating twins' bday also - but I wasnt invited. Kids stayed with dad this weekend. Friday night D11 calls to say good night. Says her and S11 will sleep in Sat morniing while OW stays with them bc H is taking S14 to early morning baseball game. I hate this. So the next morning instead of going home to bed after all night at work, I stopped at ballfield for S14 game. Casually looked this way and that then walked up to H (I know he wasnt expecting me there). I asked "where are the twins?". H replied "they're sleeping in - it was their choice ". I asked "by themselves?" (I was interested in his reply).H paused then says "Stacey came over late with her boys last night". I say "you know, this is your weekend to spend with the kids , YOU'RE responsible for them. You couldve gotten them all out of bed and brought them here, but you choose to leave them in the care of someone else?!" H said nothing as I walked off shaking my head. He later sat where I was and offered something to eat and drink. Although Im trying to be appreciative to any kind gestures, I told him "no thanks, already had something on the way here". I was in tears behind my sunglasses As soon as game was over I left. I resent OW trying to push her way in not only at my H but at my kids. S11 seems especially swayed bc OW likes to do "girlie" stuff with her. NOT someone I want my D to look up to.
I have decided my 180 will be to be respectfully assertive and say what I think. Hope, I think you're right , H may actually want to see that, especially since he cant seem to do it for himself right now. Spoke with S11 tonight. Talked excitedly about church with a friend this evening and things they did with daddy on Saturday and Sunday.(which DID NOT include OW and her kids). I was genuinely happy for them to have a good weekend with their daddy even if it didnt include me. I am starting to wonder who is initiating what. Does OW invite herself in the picture more than my H would like? Other mom on ballteam says she watches them closely. When Im there shes convinced he will come crawling back bc of the way he looks at me and the kids. She also observed recent interaction between them - OW approaching H to talk and H gave her dirty look and walked off. Im reading too much into this -probably false hope. And yet, I am seriously realizing that if H did ever come back, our marriage will never work without God in the center of it. And he has made it very clear that God/church are not a priority to him.Im struggling internally.
me - 36 H - 38 S14 S11 and D11 T 21yr M 16yr Oct 17 IDLYA June 18 H moved out June 19 H has consulted atty about 1mo ago Still waiting to be "served"
