She is improving. The setting you up with the hot chick at work is her way of relieving guilt. Deep deep deep down she knows she has done wrong. Now if you would just do something "naughty" it would take some of the blame off of her. It does not matter if you are divorced or not. They don't think clear anyway. How can we expect them to be rational for any length of time.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11