For the Guy with Kids and a WW XV

[Sugar and Spice]

H4H this is going to sound rather bitchy (I know, a shocker coming from sweet 'lil 'ol me, right?) but I would make it ABUNDANTLY CLEAR that OM is not welcome at D6's party and if a moonbounce is required, that you will take care of it for your D.
I don't think your conversation with her was necessarily too bad, but it also wasn't great. She is dying for you to give her something to hang her hat on. Thats why she was asking if you had been with anyone or made out with anyone. If you said yes, it lets her off the hook about OM. Its also self-serving. She is making sure she still has you in check or if she is losing you...be careful. You did get a truth dart in there with the "I'm married" and B is someone that W is obviously aware of that likes you.

FWIW I'm with Karen and Kat. Pull back and let her stew on it. You have given her many strong reminders of what she is giving up and because you are around so much, she really doesn't have to feel what its like without you. Make yourself scarce for the next week or so and see what happens.

BTW...I noticed that your daughter is having a Halloween dress up birthday. What is she going to be if I might ask?