Sanderika - I am so sorry this has happened to you.
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he didn't want to leave me and he doesn't want to divorce me but OW is putting on more pressure than he can stand and has for 3 years and H said he had to do something.
That's one cowardly man you got there ... He's not even prepared to take responsibility for his own divorce papers ....
Get on to your lawyer as soon as possible.
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H said he will know in 2-3 weeks if he has made a mistake and chosen the wrong one.
I wonder what magical event will happen in 2 or 3 weeks that will give him such amazing insight? He might not know what a mistake he's made for 2 or 3 years ... The man's not in his right mind.
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I have no plans to contact H ever again.
For right now, it is very important that you don't contact him. I wouldn't vow to never contact him again - but it will do him good to understand that you are prepared to cut him well and truely loose - and let him see how that feels.
Do something special for yourself today. Buy yourself a treat, or have a bubblebath or drink a bottle of champagne ... anything, just look after yourself.
Take care
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
