Trying2live- the new post 1

[twinhope]

T2L, I am so proud of you! You are doing great! I am so anxious to see how this continues for you! You are strong and in control and doing what is best for you, your children, and your M.

I have another big issue! I need advice once again. I decided to check my H's email account today b/c it was a shared account that our friends sent pictures too. I found 2 emails from realtors. My H has been looking at buying a house. It indicated that he was looking to go into it with someone else. My first thought is the OW. Her D will be final in November and according to the realtor he said that they will get him into a house as soon as possible. He is running into a tiny problem, we own a house together and we are still married also he is having issues with the debt/income ratio. The realtor stated that he could get me to agree to refi to take him off the house it could work but they would need my cooperation. He is dreaming if he thinks that will happen. I really think my H has lost his fricking mind. Does he not think that if he is buying a house with the OW before we are D that that could be a sure sign of an A and I can nail him on adultry and take full custody of our girls. Maybe it is not with her and just a friend but still to do this before we are even D or filed or asked for that matter. I have not wanted to do this at all but I feel like I need to protect my children. If he would be living with her I do not think that that is the best environment for my little girls. Secondly anything that is purchased while we are still married is both of ours even if my name is not on it. He has obviously not contacted a lawyer or he would know this. I am really getting scared. I am trying to keep it together but I do not want to get screwed and I need to make sure I am protecting my girls. What do you guys think?