People just do not forget a day such as the day of your wedding. I do not believe for a second that he has totally forgotton.
As for you, try and think of it as just another day. I have been thru three anniversaries by myself now.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Thank you! I'm really trying but it is so hard! This time of year & everything is really getting to me. Then of course my class reunion is next week & I wanted to go with him!
I still can't imagine my life without him so I haven't totally given up. It's just hard right now & especially not being able to talk to him.
How did you make it on your first anniversary without H?
Well, I guess you could say I was already trained somewhat.
My H is the type of person who thinks "holidays" are commercialized and a way to make money.
He very rarely got Valentine's Day flowers, but a few times he did get me an anniversary card.
The only thing we ever did on our anniversary is I would make a special meal.
Like I said, I think it was somewhat easier because he is not one to celebrate much of anything. He is not a scrooge and a few Christmases he actually did the shopping. Wow, I wish he would do that all the time as he is a wonderful shopper.
One year he got me bags of Williams-Sonoma things. I loved it.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Oh, my H was always doing something special for the holidays for me & Valentine day, birthday, anniversary. He was very romantic. This has just been so sudden for me it's really hard.
I know it is hard but do try and think of something nice to do for yourself.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi nlt, Would you believe it, H acknowledged our wedding anniversary the first two years but last time, after having been together again, he ignored it!
Like MWG said, try to do something nice for you on that day. (((HUGS)))
Well I plan on being at my parents house on Friday, I'm going to help my Dad put up some vinyl siding, then I'll just spend time with them on Friday night. Saturday I have a family reunion around lunch time & then my class reunion that night. So, I guess it's going to be kind of busy.
True, we finally got some much needed rain, thank you for sending it. LOL We haven't had rain in over a month!
I still don't feel like I can give up on H right now, I know that sounds crazy but I just don't feel like I can.
NLT I will pray for you this week. I know that Friday will be tough for you. You will have to let go of that day now, but it will take time.
Do something to keep yourself busy. Don't put anymore thought into it. Think of your h gone like a death. That may sound weird, but it might help you through this difficult time.
You don't have to give up on your h right now, but think of him as gone for now.
I am so sorry. Hugs!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Thank you so much!! I sure need the prayers! Sometimes I get so discouraged b/c I never hear from him. People ask me all the time, well do you want him back or could you take him back after the way he has treated you. I don't say too much b/c I have this unconditional love for him that apparently they just don't understand.
It is like a death b/c I don't hear from him. I guess if I saw him it would be different. I can't help but worry about him & wonder if he is all right.
Thank you for your prayers & let me know if you get any answers.
