Mixed Signals or Just My Imagination ?

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Thank you for your suggestions. I have been going dark for a week, and it seems that something is happening with her.

She has begun to change her tone towards me, instead of bitchy, she has tried being lighthearted.

She is in a lot of agony, but I feel I can do nothing until she invites me to.

I appreciate your tips on flirting. I can try it, but I feel it must be very subtle.

As for counselling, W has been in counseling for 7 yrs., the whole time we have been married. She told her family after the bomb that it was marriage counselling, but I know there were a number of other issues she was dealing with.

If it was marriage counselling, why was I not involved ?

We did go together during crisis's.

Last fall she asked me if I wanted to go by myself. I said it might be a good idea ( I was pretty put out with her at the time) but I didn't bc of the $$. Besides, it would have been a gripe session, as I only felt frustration with her.

In her mind, this is the example she used to say that I would not go to counseling. Had I known how seriously desperate she was feeling about our M, and my behavior in particular, we would have gone together.

We both have a lot of responsiblity in how we got here, but up till now, I am the only one who has accepted any responsibility.

I do think it is a long road. How long I am afraid to imagine.