I agree with SPM. You need to do all that stuff to make yourself look hot and push your chest out a bit and be proud.
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No man wants a needy, sniveling, mopey woman. Your man wants someone who rocks, someone who loves lavishly, someone who exudes sex appeal whether she is 18 or 88, someone who is confident and optimistic and powerful yet gentle. Someone who is wise and funny, someone a little mysterious, someone who is surprising and a little dangerous. What are you doing to be surprising and sexy and wise and mysterious?
Since my separation, I've been learning a lot from the dating and self-improvement scene. In addition to the sites for guys about how to talk to women, dress nice and have integrity, I have bumped into a few sites for women on how to find the inner goddess/hot chick inside. It might be a lot of fun. If you want some resources, PM me. You might need to turn on your PM in your preferences because I noticed I can't PM you. Your choice.
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later sent him a text letting him know that I realised he has a lot of pain etc.
Yes, I agree. Don't tell him how you feel even if it's like an apology. Guys like to "fix" things, except when they don't want to be married, and that will be misconstrued as "pushing". It also makes you seem weak. I know I have a urge to try and fix things by apologizing. It's deep in my childhood programming, but in my sitch, and possibly yours, it's NOT GOING TO HELP! So I don't. I've done all my apologizing.
And I finally remembered the thing I wanted to tell you!!
One thing I did do was realize that I was carrying the burden of what I had done in my heart and in my shoulders all the time. I was very droopy and downcast. And it was not helping me with GAL. I decided to write down everything I had done to my W on a small sheet of paper, and put it in my wallet right beside her picture. So it's with me, and I have it and carry it. I just don't carry it inside me where it will just cause more and more guilt and pain.
H42 W36 M9 yrs D8 D5 d-day: 21/11/07 S and moved out: 22/2/08 Still S: 22/11/10
