Hi Andrea, I don't blame you for being upset.Those kind of places hold no good in them. Especially with a past such as your H has. You are right to let him know you do not except it. All it can do is help you harbor doubt and memories of the past. I agree that he needs a plan to put into place the next time this kind of opportunity rises. One good thing about my H is he never goes to bars. Never has.It's no place for married people unless they are together. Choose how to approach him on this and let him know your dead serious. I think he already knows, but don't let it pass by unresolved. You need him to reassure you that it won't happen again. You were good to keep your cool in the heat of the moment,and wait until you had calmed down some before addressing it. Good DBing Andrea! There's nothing wrong with asking for what you need. There has been so much positive so far since he's been back. I think he really cares about not hurting you. If he makes one mistake, let him know how you feel. Hopefully you'll never have to deal with this again. Let us know how things turn out Andrea, Rachael
