Mixed Signals or Just My Imagination ?

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CW,

No offense taken. Anything is up for grabs right now as far as finding an answer. Its a logical possibility....

Both her mom and I have confronted her about this R with 'PG'. She says she is not interested, but has admitted PG made her interests known and has not cut off contact w/her.

W has not had same sex relations in the past, and she has told me about a lot of her sexual history, but has gotten involved with a lot of losers (guys). A lot of them were 'players' who were expert at seduction, which I am not. But once they got what they wanted, they were gone.

One of the reasons W chose to marry me is she knew I would not leave her. This was one of her early fears, and it took a while before she got over it.

She is in many ways a very naive but wonderful person, just no judgement of character. (Her hippy parents embrace EVERYONE and EVERYTHING....the wierder the better so she gets it honest ! )

I think PG has provided her a sense of being able to help someone else, and is so shy that I'm sure she is a good listener. (She would find it hard to form two coherent sentences if put to the test).

But your thoughts are echos of mine. I have wondered several times about this relationship.

Could she be vulnerable ? Maybe. But I don't think anything is actually going on.

Maybe something is coming alive in her and she wishes you could be the one to satisfy her?

Something has definitly come alive in her. I do think she wishes I could be the one to satisfy her, but she thinks it's impossible since she isn't attracted to me, doesn't love me.

If she could forgive me the things that she feels I have hurt her, then I think she might find me attractive again. Right now I am the cause of her pain, misery and depression, according to her. (I wasn't perfect....but I'm working on it now ! )

I would love to try to seduce her, but she doesn't even want to date at the moment. So getting to the place where I have the opportunity to sexually please her may be a long time in coming.

Thanks for responding to my post CW. This is my current sitch. I am just trying to take the right steps one day at a time. Any input is welcome.