First Thread in a long time......

[Holly06]

Good Evening,
The divorce is almost done. I may or may not have to be there. It might be a chance to see TJ, but I think I might just avoid that issue.
The D issues are all decided, but TJ is still avoiding or delaying paying any money to me. He is really using this last tether to me, and I am not reacting at all. Ignoring it, and letting my L deal with it.
I am resigned to the D. I have not had any contact with him at all.. The two times he tried to contact me, he was accusing me of delaying the divorce, and that was not the case at all. So I did not answer or respond.
Now I want to throw him a bone. It is time. I want to leave the door open just a bit. I have been very distant and detached. Maybe too much. It would most likely scare TJ from ever contacting me again.
Or, not?

I know that true reconciliation must be him crawling over glass to get to me, but the way it is now, I think he is scared.
The last voicemail he left me, about 5 ti 6 weeks ago was that we needed to move on......
Any advice out there?
I really need some reassurance. It seems like my actions have spoken for me, that I have given up. I want to keep my options open at the very least.
Holly