TXMOM {{{{shout}}}}}}}}} NO OLD CARDS AND LETTERS. I have not gotten the new book but have read through Divorce Remedy and Divorce Busting at least twice and that is the last thing that your H needs to read. Part of the MLC is that they have rewritten the M in their own minds and it is all bad. Since they are in a fog this will not cause them to remember the good times only to enforce that they need to get away as fast as they can. Even though I also have such a tough time about bringing up the past, good times, and the OW -- every single time it blows up in my face and I know my H wants to be anywhere than with me. Detaching is difficult. When H was here today, I had a library book on the table called "How to be Single". It was a fiction book but when H saw the title he stared at it for a minute and I think it was more effective than having our wedding album there.
As well for his birthday, if and only IF you can handle it with grace, dignity and good grace go out. But if you will end up begging, crying (like I have done in the past), DO NOT GO.
What you are feeling is normal. I too go through that whole range of emotions on a daily basis. Sometimes I feel like I am going out of my mind. But I have 21 years invested in this M, and I won't give up after 3 months. I need to stand for my M, and at least try even if it only me right now.
We need to encourage each other and stay strong. Keep posting. Sometimes that is the only thing that gets me through the day.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
