amyC...I know that I don't participate much in YOUR sitch...but I want you to know how much you MEAN to me in mine. I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I still do some 'odd stuff' here. Eg...while in the airport at LAX, I promised my kids to bring them back some little thing. I saw a cool T shirt that I almost bought for my STBXW. $24. I stopped....and didn't buy it.

Why?

It was the old W I had in my mind. I DID buy her something. I bought her a small keychain.

Why?

Because...in my heart..it still behooves me to make this a co-parenting relationship over a parallel parenting one.

Many may recall that I played lacrosse for over 13 years and started a club at a large U. that went on to become an NCAA I team. I loved the game. I used to find that...and maybe bworl will confirm this as a coach himself...that no matter how great a team you are, frequently, if you play the worst team in the world, you begin to play as bad as they do during the game.

It is hard right now for me to disengage from what she projects onto me. It is easy, sometimes, to be brainwashed into thinking that this whole mess was my fault....that all my legal filings 'were complete lies'....that I should be selling newspapers to keep my home.

However To Glamgirl...I am also not so 'blameless' to forget my beginnings here:
-I am reading the Fireproof companion book
-I talk to my W; still make HER coffee
-I post all soccer meetings, calendar events, etc..even if she doesn't do the same for me...because I KNOW my kids need their mom in their lives
-I still need to do this for ME....for my KIDs...for my next relationship IF I ever meet a woman who will fall in love with me again.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;