Yes, WAW had an EA which progressed to a PA after seperation. There was no abuse. WAW also had Post Natal Depression and had a skewed view of the world at the time. She's basically shuned her family as well.

She's now out partying with much younger people but is not seeing anyone according to her, the OM is out of the picture.

I'm just really frustrated. It's been 16 months and I've DBed sometimes well, sometimes badly but I stayed the course. I'm really just tired and feeling a bit like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. I think I had way too high expectations of the family holiday (she suggested it so I probably got over-excited/confident).

as to your question why anyone would leave a marriage or stay separated, I ask myself that every day.....

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Me; 38
W; 34
1 4yr old S
Married 4.5 yrs, together 9 yrs
Bomb; 15 June 2007
Holiday together Sept 2008; My Dad dies Nov 2008; reconcliation fails Nov 2008