I forgot to mention last nights action! D14 was on the phone talking to her mother and they sounded as though they were in a hot dispute about something. Finally, D hung up and went to the bathroom where I could hear her crying. I knocked on the door and asked her what was wrong, she told me "mom was being difficult". Well, I've been there and done that but I decided not to get into the issue but to just hold my D in my arms, let her cry and empathize with her feeling, forget whose right and whose wrong. D said "I wish I could live with you all the time, you aren't so difficult" and all I said was "I understand". Afterwards, she kissed me on the cheek and said "thank you, Daddy" That made my night. I had fought the urge to dive into the details of the argument, side with one or the other (sadly, I probably would have sided with STBX because the dispute appeared to be money centered!) and it was ultimately the best choice I could have made. My D felt her Dad understood her and cared, what better feeling could there be for either of us!
