I've kept contact with MIL & FIL (especially since W has pretty much abandoned THEM also in her MLC selfishness...) and they told me that W is a little shocked that I've been able to actually survive and thrive on my own - that the house is clean, the bills are paid, and that I actually have managed to [GASP] develop a social life on my own.
Do I still get frustrated, angry, and depressed? Damned straight I do. But, as my (awesome) therapist has pointed out to me, if I didn't have the occasional low point, it wouldn't be normal. She also told me to make time for sadness and anger but to NOT speak out to W or to/around the kids when I'm in that mode. I've learned to vent when I'm alone in the car or alone at home, and not say anything out of anger, hurt, sarcasm, etc. (can't "unring that bell").
I'm still a newbie at this - only five months in since the bomb. Still learnin'
Me: 47 Kids: 2 boys, 14 & 8 Bomb: 5/5/08 Married: 16 years, together 20 Divorce final 8/11/10 I remarried, to an amazing woman: 3/17/12... "Once in awhile, in an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale"
