trying to be patient and strong 5

[Yoyowife]

Karen,
He is living in own little fantasy world as many WAS are. He doesn't want the "outside world" to know what an a$$hole he is. He wants them to think that even though he can no longer "save" his marriage, he is still a nice guy. When someone (especially the church) else comes over and does the job he should be doing, it draws attention to the fact that he is not taking care of his family. It ticks them off when you take the matter into your own hands especially if an "outsider" does it. It's alright for people to think that you were a "bad wife", but he is supposed to be the saint that put up with you for so long. In summary he just doesn't want anyone to know of his shortcomings. It's his pride getting in the way. Where was this pride when he walked out on his family? I guess the same place my H's was.

If you can let the church do it, let them. I'm sure you will need their assistance in the future. If you tell them you have this under control they may think that he takes care of everything for you, which we all know he does not. Hmmmm...sounds a lot like another H I know...It's like pulling teeth to get my H to do things around the house.

Hugs, Yoyo