Andrea, You are going through a tough time. Your H is going through a tough time. This is marriage. Let your actions reflect that you love him. I know it's hard not to get caught up in his moods. Think of him as your best friend, and treat him with care. I know this sounds like putting your own feelings aside, but it's not. I don't preach, but read the chapter on love in the Bible-Corinthians, chapter 13.. All I know is it helps me put things into perspective. It's still not easy. You will have to be strong now because it appears he is weak. Will you be his tower of strength? I'm saying this because it is something positive to think on. There is alot of negative thinking going on. This can only be destructive in the long run. I don't have the answers Andrea, but I know my H is weak in so many areas, and not what I would like him to be. It's so easy to take it personally-like he does not care enough about you. I know it seems so. You know your H. This sounds like the same things you have always said about him. When he came back, were you prepared to except him as he was, or were you thinking that he had changed? Your disappointment shows in your posts. Can you live with this man through this crisis? Will you see it through? It may seem I am taking his side. I'm not. I'm trying to be mutual. I'm only asking hard questions that we all have to face when we take these men back. They rarely meet our expectations. Will we meet theirs? I know you want him to think on you, as you think on him. Perhaps he isn't able right now. Perhaps he won't ever live up to your expectations. Andrea...think things through. Take care of yourself, and consider his needs now as well as your own. You are not wrong in your thinking, just honest with how you are feeling. I hear your frustration, and empathize with your sitchuation. It's not an easy place to be. It's not all a bed of roses when they return is it? Think on ways to take care of yourself and your needs right now. I wish I had answers to give to you, but all I can offer is my support. You have what it takes to find your way....Rachael
