Rob, The courts in all their wisdom always do the same thing. Just get it over with, and get the two fighting parties to agree. Who ever fights harder and dirtier or has more money wins. They never make it so the children will have the same life if the parents stayed together. Your financial loss is also your D's and your W will always have this on her mind. Ten grand in legal fees that could have been used for your D's education. Don't trust a word this woman says, remember she accused you of rape and child abuse. Get this behind you and try to find a good person to share your life with.This may not be the life you envisioned but it is the one you have been handed, make the best of it. My middle daughter, 27, is engaged to a man who is divorced, no kids. They were married under a year but she still makes his life miserable whenever she can. He is a good person, who believed in her. also financially devastating him. All though, he is a different religion, a bit older, we still support him. A few months after the divorce, he met my daughter by mistake and apparently they have both found the love of their lives. So take heart, this will all pass.
