When reality hits she will probably step back and do some deep thinking. At least that is what happened in my case. When my h thought he was going to loose me for good, he did just that. He went into hiding for a while and started contacting me again.
So many people tell me that. It makes sense to me. or maybe it's just the last strand of hope I can hold onto!
It's not so hard for me to "do", because (a) I am not doing much - it is the reality of the divorce that she is pursuing. and (b), I am soooooo ready to have a regular life. One without deceipt and financial disaster because of it. One without my best friend in bed with my wife.
I've been thinking - what if she would come to me tomorrow in tears and apologize and say "I don't know where I will live" etc etc. What would I do? And I'm not sure... of course I would want to bring her into my home, but there'd be some requirements.
Anyway getting back to the point. . . 18 months in one situation is not the same as 18 months in another, because of the timing of circumstances and when each person "puts their foot down".
I tried to do what I could to move things along faster, but I could not. But naturally things are happening. Reality is dawning. We'll see.
